Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Death and Other Trivialities...

My brother and I had a rather candid discussion the other day about our funerals and how we want to be handled once we die. I have blogged about this subject before, but never really had an outright conversation with anyone in my family about it. It was incredibly freeing to talk so openly about death and laugh over all the crazy stuff we see happening once we're gone.

I hope one day soon we will be able to have such a conversation with my parents. As they are aging, their inevitable passing is something we're becoming more acutely aware of. And with their beliefs being different than ours, I want us to be clear on what they want to happen at their funerals so there are no surprises.

I have yet to write a will. Basically because I don't have anything I consider willable. Except for my writing. And I told my brother how I want that handled. Other than that, the rest of my possessions are negligible and can go to whomever needs or wants them. The important part was really to be clear about how my funeral is handled and to ensure that the Jehovah's Witnesses don't turn it into a proselytizing event. I may be quite healed of the whole JW experience but there are still some things that I feel pretty strongly about. As I said to my brother, "Keep them the fuck away from my funeral service."

We laughed about it. I'm glad we can laugh about it. As I see it, if you can't laugh about your own mortality, you aren't really living.

tall penguin

6 comments:

Gayle said...

From what I've heard, the trend now is to pick out which contemporary song you'd like to have played at your funeral. This leads to all sorts of new interpretations of songs. I lean towards "Another one bites the dust."

matt said...

LOL! I was thinking the same thing when it comes to funerals. Keep the crazy talk away from my dead corpse, it better be an open casket so I can curse them if they do come!! :)

tall penguin said...

After your comment Gayle, I was thinking that the Pink Floyd song might work, because, 'All in all we're just another brick in the wall.'

No open casket for me matt. As I've always said, if you're goin' down, you may as well go down in flames. ;) Besides, cremation brings me back to my roots sooner than later.

matt said...

Yeah, I choose cremation for myself too, but it made the joke funnier. (If it was funny!) Just think of how much money you save for the afterlife?

Speaking of bringing you back to your roots, you might almost reach the temperature you were as the Earth was cooling down during its formation!! Sounds cool to me ;)

huntingviolet said...

Yes, I agree with the strong feelings against the use of funerals as a witnessing campaign. I've always thought it was in extremely poor taste to use the memorial of someone dear as an opportunity to Bible pound and give an Adam to Armageddon speech. I'll not let a Witness near your corpse/ashes/pulpy remains.

huntingviolet said...

Oh, and I like cremation too. I'll go in a blaze of glory, please and thank you. XD