Wednesday, July 11, 2007


I read once that forgiveness is letting go of the hope for a better past. It's amazing that we could even spend time hoping that the past could be any different than what it was, because it's gone. It's done. In the words of Robert Frost, "no more to build on there."

Yet, we do it all the time. We linger in the past, thinking of the 'what ifs' and the 'if onlys'. Agonizing over the 'couldas' , 'wouldas' and shouldas'. And agony it is. For it's done. What's done is done. It cannot be otherwise. It cannot be changed. We are here now in this present moment and that's all we have.

I heard a great quote from Eckhart Tolle about forgiveness that gave me pause:

"If her past were your past; her pain your pain; her level of consciousness your level of consciousness; you would think and act exactly as she does. With this realization comes forgiveness, compassion, peace."

There is profound wisdom for me in this. It is such a loving way to look at others and myself. May we all experience this empathy and compassion.

tall penguin


Ricercar said...

i am reading more and more about this and trying to understand. but if we assume we could have done the same thing, then that helps only if we assume also that had we done it we could have forgiven ourselves. but isnt our own self the hardest to forgive?

maybe thats the key to what i am stumbling over. that we need to give up this ambitiousness of the Self

tall penguin said...

Hey there, yes it seems that it is hardest to forgive ourselves. We can be our own worst enemy until we learn to show ourselves unconditional love. It's a constant learning.

I remember reading this quote and it struck me with its truth:

"Many promising reconciliations have broken down because while both parties came prepared to forgive, neither party came prepared to be forgiven."

--Charles Williams, English Novelist and Anglican Theologian

tall penguin said...

Oh, and by the way, if you come back, I'd be interested in reading your blog should you choose to share it with me.

Ricercar said...

so true! loved the quote - one of those perspective giving viewpoints.